He borrowed $20K from his brother — then crashed the car he bought instead of going to law school (2025)

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When a loved one is in need, lending a helping hand can feel like second nature — even with a price tag.

On a recent episode of his new Netflix talk show, Everybody’s Live With John Mulaney, the comedian explores what it really means to help someone — and the consequences that can follow.

He’s joined by actor Michael Keaton and Jessica Roy, a personal finance columnist for the San Francisco Chronicle. Their first caller was Dylan from Montville, New Jersey, who borrowed $20,000 from his brother to attend law school. But instead of cracking open textbooks, Dylan bought a car. Then he crashed it. After selling the wreck for scrap, only $1,200 of the original $20,000 remained.

Now, Dylan finds himself in a bind: no money, no law degree, a totaled car and a $20,000 lie he has to repay.

It’s a cautionary tale and one that might hit closer to home than you’d expect. Whether you’ve loaned money to a loved one or considered asking for help yourself, navigating finances within personal relationships can be tricky.

Being a good friend

When money enters the mix between friends and family, the emotional toll can often outweigh the financial loss. A LendingTree survey found that 31% of Americans are owed money by a loved one — with friends and siblings being the most common borrowers.

The top reason? Covering debt payments and everyday expenses like meals and gas. But personal lending often comes with strings attached: nearly half of the respondents said they regretted lending money to someone close, and one in six admitted it had damaged a relationship.

In the episode, Roy emphasized that lending money to someone you care about requires a mental shift.

“Any money you loan someone you need to be psychologically detached from it,” she explained. “It’s a gift and I’m not going to get it back.”

It’s a mindset that protects more than just your wallet — it safeguards your relationships, too. When lending to friends and family, boundaries are just as valuable as budgets.

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